Weathering the Storm in Your Relationship
Today was another rainy spring day in Maui. Usually, I feel sad when it storms, but today it occured to me what a gift that it really is. There is the clear fact that we need the rain for the earth and the plants to grow vigorously, and to clean the streets… Rain makes me feel fresh and washed clean of any bad emotions that have built up, too.
Just the sound of rain is calming as it falls on leaves and even pavement. I clearly remember how wonderful it feels in Manhattan, when for a day the thunder of the storm and the rain on the pavement would quiet out the numbing sound of endless traffic. However, if it continues to storm and rain for too long, I start longing for the sun, almost desparately – a longing that would never come to me so strongly with the sun always out.
The same concept applies to relationships. We need to feel the highs and the lows to make things interesting. When a relationship constantly runs along with no effort, we start to lose our appreciation of it – and that can lead to problems where one or both partners become indifferent and don’t care. So, it may sound crazy, but we need to treasure the hard times of love as much as the easy times. The important thing to remember when you are in the low state is that you will enjoy the high again. It is just the cycle of life, ebb and flow, the change of the season, but played out in our emotional life together.
How do you move through the low times in your relationship?
Are you aware of the wave-like quality of relationships and flow with it with faith that the tide will turn again for the better?
Or do you get flooded with the conflict, and fear that your relationship is ruined forever, and this is just the beginning of the end?
With Love and Light,