What is relationship coaching?
A Relationship coach is a professional who helps people find greater fulfillment in their personal relationships and within the marriage. A relationship coach can help you set goals, understand your current partnership, grieve a lost loved-one, or take your long-term romance to the next level.
Working with singles who are not yet in a relationship either because they had a series of troubled relationships before and may have lost trust in themselves, or have difficulty knowing what they want in a relationship, or need help in finding a deeper connection with someone.
Just like life coaches, Relationship Coaches, help to reach higher level of performance and fulfillment. A relationship coach helps get clarity what is important for you you.
quickly uncover the essence of what you want out of a partnership, guide you around painful issues, and create a safe cocoon as you face your fears and discover your true desires.
Imagine life being like a river with boulders positioned randomly. Your fulfillment is just across the river and a coach can safely guide you to jump from bolder to bolder to other side.
Alone, you might be to scared to cross, or you might be tempted to jump too far and be in danger of falling into the river.
How do you help your clients?
I can help you clarify your relationship issues, separating what you can control from what you can’t. I help you discover what excites you, what is meaningful to you and what has been holding you back. Together, we design a personalized action plan to help you move forward and stay on track.
Even if only one of the partners works with me, I can still help the relationship and the family, I provide guidance, support, feedback, and accountability. Accountability is a key. Research shows that people are much more likely to reach their goals when they are held accountable for the results.
What happens during a coaching session?
We start by taking stock of your current situation and clarifying your vision. I ask questions designed to challenge your assumptions, encourage your own insights and explore your options. I incorporate various exercises and meditation to facilitate the state of mindfulness. Once your goals and anticipated milestones have been defined, you will make a commitment to taking specific action steps before we meet next. We will then review the progress and make necessary adjustments until you reach your desired results.
New clients usually start with a 2 or 3 months commitment to a 60 minutes weekly session. In case of some emergency we can make special arrangements. If you live in NYC you can choose to meet in person, otherwise we can meet over the phone or Skype from anywhere in the world.
How does relationship coaching differ from “couples therapy”?
If you’re having relationship troubles, I will help you clear up your thinking, get wider perspective perspective and insights. However, in the case of problems with debilitating mental illness, couples therapy would be recommended.
Coaching and therapy have different paradigms. Therapists tends to treat past emotional issues while coaches consider that clients are healthy, but need help getting out of confusion when confronted with difficult challenges. Coaching help clients be fully engaged in their life’s work and in keeping relationship healthy and deepening intimacy.
Coaching supports you to be fully engaged in your life, and deepen your intimacy with yourself and the people in your life. Coaching tends to be focussed less on talking and more on helping you move towards the outcome you desire.
Who do you work with?
I started coaching over 30 years ago and I have worked with a variety of clients – from university professors to entrepreneurs, creative professionals, attorneys, and corporate leaders helping them make better relationship choices and clear emotional blocks.
Clients who come to me are committed to growing personally and transforming their relationships. They come with hearts open to guidance and are ready to invest energy and resources into creating more passion, more intimacy, more connection in their relationships.